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Crossed-cultural Relationships and Wedding Plans

My fiance, Isan and I have been engaged for over a year now and our wedding plans are still on the back burner. We had been together for 2 years when Isan popped the question and to me it all happened so fast. We always talked of getting married, as I think its best to lay all your cards out on the table when in a crossed-cultural relationship. I was approached to write about it here for the website jakarta100bars.com recently.

Anyways cut to a few weeks ago and we still hadn’t booked a venue, let alone chose where to have it. Originally we thought of having 1 big wedding in Bali, so that both our family and friends from either side would be able to join us on the special day. But since life here in Bali hasn’t been as fruitful as we liked and all our favourite memories together have been in another town we made a different decision. We decided that we would have 2 weddings; The first one in the Hawkesbury district of NSW, Australia where I grew up and the second in Jogjakarta, Indonesia where Isan and I first met.

After making the decision it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, it just felt right. For the wedding in Australia we plan on having the ceremony/reception at a small country church and using their hall for a vintage themed afternoon tea. Expect tea and scones, spiked punch and cucumber sandwiches. The whole thing will be totally kitsch and just plain old fun. Here is some swell ideas we might go with.

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We will have our Indonesian wedding in Jogjakarta, Java. Javanese weddings are famous for being over the top and can go for days on end. Luckily for Isan (he is a simple kinda guy) and I, Isans’ parents are modern folk and they are just happy to have a party and a makan besar (a feast). Although I personally would like to include some traditions in our wedding as respect to Isan and his parents culture. Here are some clues to how we might celebrate our marriage, Indonesian style.

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javanese-bride-and-groom.jpg gudeg-makanan-jogja.jpg modern-kebaya.jpg

There is a lot of things to get organised first before we can start planning the weddings. Such as sending Kawan to Australia and submitting Isans’ visa application but well I am a girl after all and thanks to Pinterest I can start dreaming/planning over my morning coffee.

All images sourced via here 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12

You can also follow my Pinterest board ‘I do’ to see more pretty wedding pictures and the plans for Isan and I’s big days.

 

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